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QUEEN AND SUMMEY

As I sat there watching Queen and Slim my mind wandered back… It was a beautiful summer day and we didn’t have a care in the world. Two professional black people taking a break from the grind of litigation. We found ourselves at Lowe’s in Morehead City plant shopping. Satisfied with our selection, we checked […]

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Tonza D. Ruffin

I am a single mother, daughter, and attorney living in Bertie County, a small town in Eastern North Carolina. Growing up I moved back and forth between the Bronx and Bertie County,  so my personality is a little bit city and a little bit country (although I prefer the term southern). After being back in […]

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CRABS IN A BARREL

Black Women don’t support one another enough. There, I said it! Often we refer to it as the “Crabs In A Barrel” mindset which essentially means we fear helping another will somehow interfere with our ability to attain greatness. I will be the first to admit in my younger years I hoarded knowledge that would […]

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HAPPY THANKSGIVING

This is my second year being away from home on Thanksgiving. Last year we celebrated in Cape May, New Jersey.  This year I decided to roll out with my mom and cousin and head to beautiful Charleston, South Carolina. As a natural wanderer, I  am enjoying this non-traditional way of celebrating the holiday. Since I […]

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Hit The Reset Button

Yesterday a lady stopped me in the parking lot to let me know she had read Pieces Of Me. She went on to say that it contained a powerful word and it was going to be helpful to many! My heart just beamed❤️❤️❤️. I was so incredibly thankful that she thought enough of me to […]

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Bell Avenue (Childhood)

I grew up waiting for the day that my father would finally make my mother breathe her last breath. From the outside looking in you would have never known the horror that existed in my life as a little girl. My parents were living the American dream as a young, black couple in America. We […]

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Thankful!

Yesterday, before I took a major leap of faith and released something near and dear to me into the universe, I said a prayer. While I am a pretty transparent person, I rarely share my prayer life with the world. I will not lie, discussing my prayer life openly makes me feel a little hokie! […]

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Men Just Aren’t Ready For Your Feelings

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In a lot of cases men wouldn’t ever get married if we could get away with it.  If a woman would allow that. We’d keep it simple, and you’d be a companion vs a wife. Or, someone we occasionally spent time with.

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The “F” Word

Apparently I did not get the 2019 single woman’s memo, the “F” word is never to be raised, or discussed, until you have been dating/seeing someone for a solid 6 months, year, 2 years…maybe NEVER. Up until his visceral rejection of my revelation, I thought we were kind of feeling each other despite the fact […]

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It’s Not Jordyn’s Fault

So, I have been tuned in very little to this whole Jordyn Woods/Tristan/Khloe Kardashian saga. It just wasn’t something that caught my interest until I watched this young girls’ interview on Red Table Talk. As I watched, I cried tears for this 21-year-old. Her life has been turned upside down by a split-second decision to […]

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