PIECES OF ME

I am excited to announce that my book, PIECES OF ME, is now available! PIECES OF ME is a compilation of raw and transparent pieces about my life as a southern woman, southern mom, and southern lawyer!  PIECES OF ME is a glimpse into the “perfectly imperfect” world that I have created through healing, evolution, […]

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Tonza D. Ruffin

I am a single mother, daughter, and attorney living in Bertie County, a small town in Eastern North Carolina. Growing up I moved back and forth between the Bronx and Bertie County,  so my personality is a little bit city and a little bit country (although I prefer the term southern). After being back in […]

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Take Away Their Power

I have been a self-proclaimed feminist since my college days. In fact, in undergrad I majored in Political Science and minored in Women’s Studies with the dream of getting into a Women’s Studies PhD program. My plan was to plant myself on a campus somewhere and spend the rest of my life empowering young women. […]

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Man POWER Monday – Calvon Jones has “spiritual” swag

It is “Man POWER Monday”!!! It seems like a few short years ago I was attending my nephew’s high school graduation. While my family and I were all so excited about this milestone, we were a little more excited about the post graduation celebration we had planned. After all, it was just a high school […]

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Cape May, New Jersey -Family Time

I was hoping to convince my family to return to New York for another fun-filled vacation, so when my mother suggested we spend Thanksgiving in Cape May, New Jersey I was less than thrilled. It had been years since I traveled to Cape May and there was nothing in my memory bank that made me […]

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Breaking News! That’s Inappropriate!

I interrupt my regularly scheduled post to bring this breaking news! No worries, Man POWER Monday will return next week. As a criminal defense attorney it is my job to present my client in the best light possible to a jury and a Judge. If anyone has ever told you that what you look like […]

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The Entitled Beggar

Approximately eight of us were standing in line on a New York City sidewalk waiting to enter the IFC Center on 6th Avenue. Excited that we were about to see the documentary “While I Breathe, I Hope”, we stood around chatting as we patiently waited. As is common in New York City, the eight of […]

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Man POWER Monday – Trombone Shorty has “musical” swag

It is “Man POWER Monday”!!! This week I am featuring none other than Trombone Shorty. Sadly I must admit that it took this trip to NOLA for me to learn about this musical genius. Sometimes I feel like I am living under a rock! 🙂 In case you don’t know, Trombone Shorty has “musical swag”. Born […]

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What Are You Thankful For?

I AM THANKFUL THAT I HAVE NOT BEEN HARDENED BY MY LIFE EXPERIENCES. What are you thankful for on this Thanksgiving Day? Happy Thanksgiving and Much Love, Tonza

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New York! New York! – “Wecation” adventures

Wanting to spend a little mommy/daughter time with my youngest daughter, I planned a mini “wecation” for us to wonderful New York City. Having Gabby stuck in the car with me for 7 plus hours was just as exciting as everything we did while we were in New York…at least for me! I had a […]

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Man POWER Monday- Caleb Ruffin has “humility swag”

It is “Man POWER Monday”!!! This week I am featuring none other than my wonderful nephew, Caleb Ruffin. I am such a proud auntie because at the young age of twenty, my nephew exhibits “humility swag”. Despite the fact that he is incredibly intelligent, and, strikingly handsome (all characteristics he inherited from his auntie 😆), […]

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