Tonza D. Ruffin

I am a single mother, daughter, and attorney living in Bertie County, a small town in Eastern North Carolina. Growing up I moved back and forth between the Bronx and Bertie County,  so my personality is a little bit city and a little bit country (although I prefer the term southern). After being back in […]

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Pro-Choice and Proud

This is my body! The fact that one attempts to use the government to come in and dictate what I do with it makes me mad as hell. You had absolutely nothing to do with my creation, so, why would you believe that you should be given the awesome privilege of telling me what to […]

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You Know You Are Approaching Fifty When…

The other day my friend asked me, “do you realize we graduated from high school thirty years ago?” I. ALMOST. PASSED. OUT! Thirty years??? Where has all of the time gone? Of course, we would love to be able to turn back the hands of time, and, tweak a few things, but, the more we […]

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Cause I’m A Woman

The twenty something Tonza (as she smiles gleefully): The forty something Tonza (as I give myself the side eye): WHY IN THE WORLD WOULD I TAKE ALL OF THAT ON? Anyone remember the saying, “be careful what you wish for”? It seems to be playing like a broken record in my head as I think […]

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This is America

So now it appears that peaceful protests are a thing of the past. At least, if you are in the NFL. In response to NFL players stance on police brutality and racial profiling, the NFL “powers that be” have come up with a rule that says if the players are on the field during the […]

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Consider the Source – Why wouldn’t you want police accountability?

So, when someone is breaking into your home, raping your daughter or there is an active shooter (killer) and the police show up to stop the threat, the focus will be on the police and what they did to stop that threat. Upon reading this I could not help but think back to the Reconstruction […]

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My Journey Along the Way

As promised, here are three things about me that many of you never knew: 1. I wanted to be a Women’s Studies professor. Years ago, when I had only 1 daughter, I thought my life was heading in a different direction. I envisioned a life where we lived in a quiet college/university community, and, I […]

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Motion to Continue

This case needed to be continued and I knew it. My client was charged with First Degree Murder, not Driving While License Revoked. Despite my pleas with the prosecutor to allow me additional time to prepare for trial, she was determined to go forward. I suspected that this stance had something to do with the […]

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Women/Young Ladies that Inspire Me

Hi everyone!! I really have missed blogging over the past couple of weeks.  Court demands, and, other projects have been consuming so much of  my time. Anyway, I have decided to dedicate my next couple of blog posts to sharing more information about me, Tonza D. Ruffin :-). To kick this project off, here are three […]

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Enter for a Chance to Win Cleo Wade’s Book, Heart Talk

I have so enjoyed Cleo Wade’s Book, Heart Talk, Poetic Wisdom For A Better Life. It is filled with practical wisdom that everyone could benefit from.  So inspired, I decided that I wanted to share this book with others. So, I bought 6 more copies:  one for each of my  oldest daughters, three for some friends, […]

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