For the past couple of months I walked away from my social media accounts. Honestly, my initial decision to walk away did not seem to be prompted by some strong desire to regroup and reflect. In fact, I felt forced to walk away. So, for a couple of weeks after I deactivated my Facebook and Instagram accounts I was angry and bitter. I began to question my true growth as a woman and all of the feminist ideals I claimed to embrace. How could I encourage women to “do you” when I had compromised, or so I thought, by walking away from something that was important to me? Once I moved past my anger and blame I began to really ponder the decision I had made to walk away. What I realized was that I was using his concerns as an excuse for me to take a much needed break. In a good place and able to delve a little deeper into my feelings, I concluded that I was addicted to social media and I had become tired of the grip that it held on me. With that realization and acceptance, I comfortably fell into my existence sans social media.
Please don’t tell him 🙂, but, honestly, my life sans social media, has been much richer. I now have time to focus on things that I truly missed but never seemed to be able to find time to do when my focus was on becoming the next social media sensation. I have spent afternoons curled up in the bed, catching up on books that I have been meaning to read so that I could immerse myself in a world that someone else has created. I have found time to work on projects in my home so that me and my children could have a cozy atmosphere to rest and regroup from the challenges that we faced in the world on a daily basis. When I am out and about, I am able to take in and appreciate my surroundings much more since I am in the moment and not focused on capturing the moment. Because I am no longer looking for excuses to take a break and check my statuses, my focus is much better. But, I must say, the biggest gift of my break up with social media is that I am present and in the moment with the people that are near and dear to me. Quality time no longer includes sitting on the couch checking my “likes” and “comments” with the television on as everyone talks around me. I listen and I am engaged even though they drive me completely “bonkers” sometimes.
Of course I struggle with the thought of SouthernMomJD losing relevance now that I am not constantly pushing it. The reality is social media is very much a part of how our society communicates. With that in mind I have begun to try to figure out how to strike a balance. Until I find that balance, I find comfort in the fact that the gift of time also allows me to spend time writing, the thing that truly brings me joy. If I continue to write and people continue enjoying what I write, SouthernmomJD will be okay.