Every day as I get ready for work I see the words “I am enough”. I had this phrase inscribed on my body almost two years ago, during my period of transition. At the time that I decided to make this phrase a permanent part of my life I really didn’t believe that I was “enough”. Quite honestly, I was broken and wondering how different my life would have been if I believed that I was enough early on. I was certain that my insecurity had influenced many of my decisions over the years. So, I decided to place the phrase upon my body as an affirmation, a mindset that I was striving toward. Over time, just like anything else one gets used to, I stopped paying attention to the phrase.
I AM ENOUGH!!
Getting ready for work about two weeks ago, a light bulb suddenly went off for me. I stopped as I was looking in the mirror and stared at the phrase near my collarbone, “I am enough”, and, this overwhelming sense of happiness and peace come over me. It was at that moment I realized that my mindset had shifted from striving toward being “enough”, to actually believing that I was “enough”.
I AM ENOUGH!!
Coming to this inner peace has been very liberating for me. I no longer worry about fitting into the mold that society has created for Tonza. I realize that societal guidelines about how we should act and feel are thrust upon us without any consideration for our individuality. Which means too often we are judged by others when we fail at acting as they think we should.
I AM ENOUGH!!
Realizing that “I am enough” means that I am accepting my uniqueness and being honest about who I am, instead of constantly trying to fit into the societal mold of who I should be. Being freed from this goal of societal standards of “perfection” has allowed me to embrace me and all of my quirks, and live a much fuller life. So, I now spend many more days living in a way that is rich and rewarding for me.
AND, SO ARE YOU!!
As I focus on being the person that I want to be, I find that I have very little time, or desire, to concern myself with how others are living. Which means, I am no longer a part of the cycle that imposes societal molds on others. I am open to others and the choices that they make and not quick to judge or be the “negative Nancy” in the crowd. And, I am not angered by those that do not necessarily embrace my life choices. Because being enough is not about forcing others to respect, or accept, where you are in life, it is about remaining true to yourself, despite what others think.
As a mommy, I hope that my transition assists me with reinforcing peace and self-love within my daughter’s as they deal with a society that is going to work hard to force them in a mold. I hope that my transition helps me to support daughters as they look in the mirror, smile, and know that they are truly enough, despite anything that life throws their way.