Prelude to a Kiss IV (The End)

IMG_2875

I was doing it again. Ignoring the inner voice that was screaming something was off. Like many times in the past, I ignored that inner voice because his words made me feel so good at a time when I was so vulnerable. Still slightly off balance by the abrupt ending to my relationship with my “Keeper”, I mistook this man’s entry back into my life as a sign. A sign that I had chosen the wrong path when I chose to open myself up completely to the friend that eventually became my lover.

 

Sitting on my couch, taking some time to reflect and finally listening to my inner voice, I knew. I knew that I was turning a blind eye and going along with the BS simply because I did not want to admit that I had gotten it wrong once again. Tired of my role as the passive participant in his game of “manipulation by way of dishonesty”, I sought the truth.

IMG_2878

Within an hour I was able to fill in many blanks and get answers I had been seeking from him for some time. Growth in me was evident as I noticed the unfortunate truth did not send me into an emotional tailspin. In fact, finding the truth had the opposite effect on my psyche, I had an overwhelming sense of relief and peace. So, while my Prelude to a Kiss journey did not end as a fairytale romance, I was, and am, appreciative because the journey helped me to experience more growth as a person.

IMG_2876

 

Do I still hope there is a companion out there in the world for me? Yes I do. But right now I am taking time to learn to trust my inner voice. As a result, I am back to experiencing that peace and joy I initially found following a difficult marriage that required me to “Dig Deeper”. And, while I did not make a love connection with my “knight in shining armor”, I definitely made a connection far greater than I could have ever imagined. I reconnected with my inner Queen, adjusted my crown, and embraced the wonderful gift of life that has been bestowed upon me.

 

 

Much love,

Tonza

P.S. You can blame my inner Queen for the one day delay in Prelude to a Kiss IV. I have been busy exploring and taking in the city of New Orleans during my “mecation”. I hope you won’t hold it against me.

 

 

Posted by

southern woman, southern mom, and southern lawyer!

7 thoughts on “Prelude to a Kiss IV (The End)

  1. Yes, it is a good read. Just remember to continue to use both your head and your heart in evaluating a situation. We tend to use our head more after we’ve been hurt. We have to be fair to ourselves as well as the other person and continue to use both.

  2. Keeping taking time for you and deciding what you really WANT! Don’t settle, life is too precious to be wasting time with the wrong person. Continue to reconnect with yourself and the true desires of your heart. In time, you will find the love you deserve. Much love cousin!

  3. I encourage you to date yourself for as long as you need to. After my abusive relationship I needed to date myself because I had lost “thy self”. Getting back to the definition of you and not how you were redefined is essential to your own peace as you grow. Trust me! I’m still removing vocabulary words and paragraphs that was not in the original definition.

    Love ya!

    1. You are so on point with that advice. The more I date myself the more I fall in love with me. Truly enjoying this period of self-love.

Leave a Reply

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.