On Stereotyping…Let’s Take It A Step Further.

In my recent piece, On Stereotyping…am I a bad person?, many of you were very supportive of my hyperawareness and unfounded fear. For that, I am thankful. The feedback I received basically excused my behavior and attributed it to the society that we now live in. One person thoughtfully pointed out that gun control might be […]

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On Stereotyping…am I a bad person?

I was headed up to my room from the hotel lobby. As the elevator door opened, another guest walked up and entered the elevator with me. Our conversation was limited to me asking “which floor” so that I could push the button for him since I was closest to the buttons.  Within the short period […]

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Take Away Their Power

I have been a self-proclaimed feminist since my college days. In fact, in undergrad I majored in Political Science and minored in Women’s Studies with the dream of getting into a Women’s Studies PhD program. My plan was to plant myself on a campus somewhere and spend the rest of my life empowering young women. […]

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The Entitled Beggar

Approximately eight of us were standing in line on a New York City sidewalk waiting to enter the IFC Center on 6th Avenue. Excited that we were about to see the documentary “While I Breathe, I Hope”, we stood around chatting as we patiently waited. As is common in New York City, the eight of […]

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PIECES OF ME

I am excited to announce that my book, PIECES OF ME, is now available! PIECES OF ME is a compilation of raw and transparent pieces about my life as a southern woman, southern mom, and southern lawyer!  PIECES OF ME is a glimpse into the “perfectly imperfect” world that I have created through healing, evolution, […]

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Pro-Choice and Proud

This is my body! The fact that one attempts to use the government to come in and dictate what I do with it makes me mad as hell. You had absolutely nothing to do with my creation, so, why would you believe that you should be given the awesome privilege of telling me what to […]

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This is America

So now it appears that peaceful protests are a thing of the past. At least, if you are in the NFL. In response to NFL players stance on police brutality and racial profiling, the NFL “powers that be” have come up with a rule that says if the players are on the field during the […]

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Women/Young Ladies that Inspire Me

Hi everyone!! I really have missed blogging over the past couple of weeks.  Court demands, and, other projects have been consuming so much of  my time. Anyway, I have decided to dedicate my next couple of blog posts to sharing more information about me, Tonza D. Ruffin :-). To kick this project off, here are three […]

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How Many More Massacres Must Occur Before We Get Gun Control

On February 14, 2018 when most of us were focused on LOVE, a 19 year old, armed with an assault rifle, went into a school and murdered 17 people. In the year prior to this horrific act, the 19 year old purchased, at least, nine other guns for his “gun collection”. In the days and […]

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