Meghan Markle Hit the Jackpot

Just like every other woman on the planet, I was tuned in for the royal wedding. Most women (and maybe even some men) love a storybook romance. Mesmerized by the beauty and splendor of the union between this beautiful couple, many of us focused in on every expression shared between them, trying to confirm that […]

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Cause I’m A Woman

The twenty something Tonza (as she smiles gleefully): The forty something Tonza (as I give myself the side eye): WHY IN THE WORLD WOULD I TAKE ALL OF THAT ON? Anyone remember the saying, “be careful what you wish for”? It seems to be playing like a broken record in my head as I think […]

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DIVORCED…NOT DEVASTATED

I am excited to announce that I am 1 of 11 authors in a new book, DIVORCED…NOT DEVASTATED. This book is a compilation of unique stories by women who emerged triumphant after divorce. While the stories in this compilation center around our divorce journeys, DIVORCED…NOT DEVASTATED would be a wonderful read for anyone that has […]

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Is That What You Call Cheating?

I got a lot of great feedback from my post, Monogamy…is that even possible?. The feedback, and reflection on my personal journey, led to another question. What is cheating? I think there is a huge disparity in how men and women define cheating. Or is it just a disparity in how cheaters vs. non-cheaters define […]

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Monogamy…is that even possible?

You say you got a girl And how you want me How you want me when you got a girl? The feelin’ is wreckless Of knowin’ you’re selfish Knowin’ I’m desperate Gettin’ all in your love Fallin’ all over love, like Do it to last, last Hanging out the back, all up in your lap […]

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I am a Feminist (but, I like a man who is chivalrous)

In this quest for equality as women have we led men to believe that we no longer desire a chivalrous man at our side? If so, men please accept my apology for the role that I have played in the confusion.  Sure, I want equal pay and equal access to opportunities. I want to be […]

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He Made Me Do It (why I broke up with social media)

For the past couple of months I walked away from my social media accounts. Honestly, my initial decision to walk away did not seem to be prompted by some strong desire to regroup and reflect. In fact, I felt forced to walk away. So, for a couple of weeks after I deactivated my Facebook and […]

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Alpha Omega – On Father’s Day

My parent’s divorced when I was 10. Following their divorce my brother and I lived with our mother. My mother never got over the pain inflicted upon her at my father’s hands and my father never figured out how to be a daddy to his children once he and my mom went their separate ways. […]

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To Lipstick, or, Not

They are all tucked away in my makeup bag.  I had so much fun with them over the past several months.  In fact, the compliments I received made me more obsessed with finding different shades every time I entered a store.  My bright red lips had become a bold statement about my new found freedom. […]

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He’s A Keeper

Unable to stay awake a second longer, I hobbled into my bedroom, crawled under the cover, and drifted into a world that did not include my demanding children. Prior to this weekend, I was able to closely monitor my boyfriend’s interactions with my children. No, not because my boyfriend is creepy and needs to be […]

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