Welcome to “Man POWER Monday”

I don’t believe there are enough positive images of Black men out there in the universe. So, I have decided to do my part and make Mondays “Man POWER Monday” on SouthernmomJD. Each Monday SouthernmomJD will highlight at least one Black man that absolutely rocks! Without further ado, the first Black man to be featured […]

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My Children Are Dating Gurus

This morning as I was in the middle of my morning walk, I had an AHA moment! Single moms reentering the dating scene have an advantage over women without kids. Unfortunately it seems that many of us are overlooking our most valuable resource, our children. That’s right. Our children’s dating skills are being woefully underutilized […]

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I Still LOVE to Read, Do You?

I love to read! I have books scattered throughout my house, as well as, downloaded on my iPad. Just like my music choices, I do not limit myself to one genre when I am devouring words on a page. My mood dictates what I read, and, whether or not I want to read the old fashioned […]

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We ARE NOT Burning Any Nikes In Our House, We Support Nike!

Gabby asked me last night what the big deal was with Colin Kaepernick when she saw me reading an article about the recent Nike ad. Quickly I explained that he was a former football player that kneeled during the National Anthem as a way of protesting against social injustice. And, he basically lost his job […]

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Pro-Choice and Proud

This is my body! The fact that one attempts to use the government to come in and dictate what I do with it makes me mad as hell. You had absolutely nothing to do with my creation, so, why would you believe that you should be given the awesome privilege of telling me what to […]

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Tonza D. Ruffin

I am a single mother, daughter, and attorney living in Bertie County, a small town in Eastern North Carolina. Growing up I moved back and forth between the Bronx and Bertie County,  so my personality is a little bit city and a little bit country (although I prefer the term southern). After being back in […]

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I Represent Killer’s That The Village Has Failed

I represent people that kill people. Some of the killers that I represent have not even reached the age of twenty. They are children. People constantly ask me,  “how could you represent people like that?” My question is, “how could I not?” By the time a killer has been placed in my care, the fact […]

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Mommy vs. Feminist/Activist

For those of you that did not get to read it, I decided to share my last column in the Bertie-Ledger. Let me know your thoughts! A couple of years ago I selfishly refused to understand a mother’s view when she explained that she had little concern for her African-American son making a statement when […]

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I Am Auggie

My youngest daughter and I have been reading the book Wonder by R.J. Palacio. Wonder is about a ten-year old boy whose nickname is Auggie. As a result of a facial deformity he was born with, Auggie struggles with going to school and making friends. This morning as we were reading, I was overcome with […]

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My Families “Bucket List”

As I shared in “The Big Panty Crew” Bucket List, I love to read people’s bucket list. So, since I decided to share my friend’s bucket list, I definitely wanted to share my families. So, here we go☺️☺️: My mother’s bucket list: Own a small condo in NYC a moving company to help me move some […]

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