DIVORCED…NOT DEVASTATED

I am excited to announce that I am 1 of 11 authors in a new book, DIVORCED...NOT DEVASTATED. This book is a compilation of unique stories by women who emerged triumphant after divorce. While the stories in this compilation center around our divorce journeys, DIVORCED...NOT DEVASTATED would be a wonderful read for anyone that has... Continue Reading →

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My Journey Along the Way

As promised, here are three things about me that many of you never knew: 1. I wanted to be a Women’s Studies professor. Years ago, when I had only 1 daughter, I thought my life was heading in a different direction. I envisioned a life where we lived in a quiet college/university community, and, I... Continue Reading →

Women/Young Ladies that Inspire Me

Hi everyone!! I really have missed blogging over the past couple of weeks.  Court demands, and, other projects have been consuming so much of  my time. Anyway, I have decided to dedicate my next couple of blog posts to sharing more information about me, Tonza D. Ruffin :-). To kick this project off, here are three... Continue Reading →

The Shift

I found myself in a constant state of anger, always ready for war. Taking the easy way out, I blamed my raging hormones and accepted that this was something I had to endure and manage through medication, meditation, and mindfulness. Unable to shake the feeling of defeat at the thought of taking medication, I immersed... Continue Reading →

Please Don’t Build that Wall

I had the wonderful opportunity to spend my 47th Birthday in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico. I will admit that prior to the trip, I was one of those arrogant Americans that swore to never step foot in Mexico. "Too much violence" is what I said anytime anyone asked had I ever visited Mexico. When deciding... Continue Reading →

Is That What You Call Cheating?

I got a lot of great feedback from my post, Monogamy…is that even possible?. The feedback, and reflection on my personal journey, led to another question. What is cheating? I think there is a huge disparity in how men and women define cheating. Or is it just a disparity in how cheaters vs. non-cheaters define... Continue Reading →

Southerners and Snow

The thought of snow out here in our "neck of the woods" throws us into a "tizzy". It is quite different from my experience growing up in New York where the city didn't stop even if there was a foot of snow on the ground. A foot of snow on the ground around here would... Continue Reading →

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