The “F” Word

Apparently I did not get the 2019 single woman’s memo, the “F” word is never to be raised, or discussed, until you have been dating/seeing someone for a solid 6 months, year, 2 years…maybe NEVER. Up until his visceral rejection of my revelation, I thought we were kind of feeling each other despite the fact […]

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It’s Not Jordyn’s Fault

So, I have been tuned in very little to this whole Jordyn Woods/Tristan/Khloe Kardashian saga. It just wasn’t something that caught my interest until I watched this young girls’ interview on Red Table Talk. As I watched, I cried tears for this 21-year-old. Her life has been turned upside down by a split-second decision to […]

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Submissive Boss Chick

If someone asked me to describe myself in 3 words or less I would say “submissive boss chick”. I know, I know…a bit of an oxymoron huh? But wait, let me explain before you start judging and trying to snatch my super woman cape. I am willing to bet there are other women out there […]

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What Tonza Wants

I recently read an interesting article about what men in my age group are attracted to. I thought this article did a wonderful job of providing some insight into the mind of a mature man seeking companionship. It also led to some introspection on my part…What do I want? After careful consideration, while blasting Ella […]

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On Stereotyping…Let’s Take It A Step Further.

In my recent piece, On Stereotyping…am I a bad person?, many of you were very supportive of my hyperawareness and unfounded fear. For that, I am thankful. The feedback I received basically excused my behavior and attributed it to the society that we now live in. One person thoughtfully pointed out that gun control might be […]

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On Stereotyping…am I a bad person?

I was headed up to my room from the hotel lobby. As the elevator door opened, another guest walked up and entered the elevator with me. Our conversation was limited to me asking “which floor” so that I could push the button for him since I was closest to the buttons.  Within the short period […]

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Full Circle Part 1- If It Don’t Fit Don’t Force It

I know I am stereotyping when I say this but I believe most women are nurturers. As such, we believe that we are powerful enough to overcome anything with a strong dose of love and understanding. Oftentimes it is that belief that leads to us staying in a relationship well past its date of expiration. […]

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Silenced – Was I wrong??

We were in Middle School. My friend, well…she hit puberty well before the rest of us girls. As a result, she walked around with a body that the rest of us only dreamed of possessing in the near future. With that body came an air of confidence that suggested that she was somehow superior to […]

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Man POWER Monday – Bryan Stevenson has “Justice” Swag

Man POWER Monday is back!!! As part of my holiday adventures I had the opportunity to travel to Montgomery, Alabama with my nephew and daughter solely for the purpose of visiting The Legacy Museum: From Slavery to Mass Incarceration and The National Memorial for Peace and Justice. The Museum and Memorial came into existence thanks […]

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