President of the "Bitter Bitches" Club

I recently learned that I had been bestowed the honor of serving as President of the “Bitter Bitches” Club. Ironically the person that had taken on the responsibility of looking for the perfect candidate never bothered to let me know that I was being considered for such a prestigious position. Therefore it should come as […]

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A Love Letter to Myself

What a GREAT WAY TO START A SUNDAY MORNING! Check out “A Love Letter to Myself” by guest blogger TAKIYA LEWIS, ESQ. You have to remember who you are, what you want and what you deserve.  Sometimes what we want isn’t what God wants for us.  Walking away from it may be hard, it may […]

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A Closer Look at Tonza D. Ruffin: SouthernMomJD

As I enter 2020 I am looking for new ways to engage in conversation and share more of my “Perfect Bomb A$! Life” (read the post before commenting on the title 🙂 ) with you all. This video is the first step in that direction. I hope you enjoy! Much Love, Tonza

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Behind the Scenes of My Perfect "Bomb A$%" Life

Happy Holidays! Two days left and we will all be gathering around the tree, drinking hot cocoa in our matching Christmas pajamas, and exchanging gifts as we instruct Alexa to stream holiday music throughout our wonderfully decorated homes. Real talk…The scenario I just described is only a figment of my imagination. At least as it […]

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Who Would Have Known That Phoenix, Arizona Would Forge a Place in My Heart

When I walked through the streets of downtown Phoenix I felt like I belonged. I felt free. I felt as though I had finally found my landing spot (I felt this feeling when I was surfing in Maui many years ago too! LOL!). Anywho enough about my deep feelings for Phoenix. I wanted to take […]

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BEHIND CLOSED DOORS

It’s here! My published short story, BEHIND CLOSED DOORS, is now available for purchase through the Kindle Store and it only cost $1.99. I wrote this series of short stories because I wanted to do my part to continue the conversation about domestic violence. I must say my inspiration came from a woman that I […]

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HOLIDAY BUNDLE

LOOKING FOR A UNIQUE STOCKING STUFFER? SAVE MONEY BY ORDERING PIECES OF ME AND GREGARIOUS GABBY TOGETHER! THROUGH DECEMBER 24, 2019 PAY ONLY $20.00 FOR BOTH BOOKS. SIMPLY ENTER CODE BUNDLE AT THE END OF YOUR PURCHASE AND YOUR DISCOUNT WILL AUTOMATICALLY BE CALCULATED! MUCH LOVE, TONZA

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QUEEN AND SUMMEY

As I sat there watching Queen and Slim my mind wandered back… It was a beautiful summer day and we didn’t have a care in the world. Two professional black people taking a break from the grind of litigation. We found ourselves at Lowe’s in Morehead City plant shopping. Satisfied with our selection, we checked […]

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CRABS IN A BARREL

Black Women don’t support one another enough. There, I said it! Often we refer to it as the “Crabs In A Barrel” mindset which essentially means we fear helping another will somehow interfere with our ability to attain greatness. I will be the first to admit in my younger years I hoarded knowledge that would […]

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HAPPY THANKSGIVING

This is my second year being away from home on Thanksgiving. Last year we celebrated in Cape May, New Jersey.  This year I decided to roll out with my mom and cousin and head to beautiful Charleston, South Carolina. As a natural wanderer, I  am enjoying this non-traditional way of celebrating the holiday. Since I […]

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