Cape May, New Jersey -Family Time

I was hoping to convince my family to return to New York for another fun-filled vacation, so when my mother suggested we spend Thanksgiving in Cape May, New Jersey I was less than thrilled. It had been years since I traveled to Cape May and there was nothing in my memory bank that made me […]

Read More

Tonza D. Ruffin

I am a single mother, daughter, and attorney living in Bertie County, a small town in Eastern North Carolina. Growing up I moved back and forth between the Bronx and Bertie County,  so my personality is a little bit city and a little bit country (although I prefer the term southern). After being back in […]

Read More

My Families “Bucket List”

As I shared in “The Big Panty Crew” Bucket List, I love to read people’s bucket list. So, since I decided to share my friend’s bucket list, I definitely wanted to share my families. So, here we go☺️☺️: My mother’s bucket list: Own a small condo in NYC a moving company to help me move some […]

Read More

Alpha Omega – On Father’s Day

My parent’s divorced when I was 10. Following their divorce my brother and I lived with our mother. My mother never got over the pain inflicted upon her at my father’s hands and my father never figured out how to be a daddy to his children once he and my mom went their separate ways. […]

Read More

Why We Settle

I have really missed blogging over the past couple of weeks, but it has been a wonderful time of deep reflection and transition for me. So, I am at the half way point to being eligible to file for my divorce.  In North Carolina, a person must be separated for one year before they can […]

Read More

For Your Consideration

I have been receiving a lot of feedback from individuals that have read my blog posts.  As a writer it is always exciting when you get feedback because you know that your material is being read.  Of course, as human beings we all share a different set of beliefs, values, and standards.  So, just like […]

Read More