Behind the Scenes of My Perfect "Bomb A$%" Life

Happy Holidays! Two days left and we will all be gathering around the tree, drinking hot cocoa in our matching Christmas pajamas, and exchanging gifts as we instruct Alexa to stream holiday music throughout our wonderfully decorated homes. Real talk…The scenario I just described is only a figment of my imagination. At least as it […]

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Charleston, SC – “Traveling Thanksgiving” Adventures

As we walked through the historic district in Charleston, South Carolina, admiring the beautiful homes, I could just imagine myself sitting on the front porch sipping a mint julep. Spending Thanksgiving with the “Original Divas” was a blast. If you enjoy food, history, and beautiful homes, you need to add Charleston, South Carolina to your […]

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Cape May, New Jersey -Family Time

I was hoping to convince my family to return to New York for another fun-filled vacation, so when my mother suggested we spend Thanksgiving in Cape May, New Jersey I was less than thrilled. It had been years since I traveled to Cape May and there was nothing in my memory bank that made me […]

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Tonza D. Ruffin

I am a single mother, daughter, and attorney living in Bertie County, a small town in Eastern North Carolina. Growing up I moved back and forth between the Bronx and Bertie County,  so my personality is a little bit city and a little bit country (although I prefer the term southern). After being back in […]

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My Families “Bucket List”

As I shared in “The Big Panty Crew” Bucket List, I love to read people’s bucket list. So, since I decided to share my friend’s bucket list, I definitely wanted to share my families. So, here we go☺️☺️: My mother’s bucket list: Own a small condo in NYC a moving company to help me move some […]

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Alpha Omega – On Father’s Day

My parent’s divorced when I was 10. Following their divorce my brother and I lived with our mother. My mother never got over the pain inflicted upon her at my father’s hands and my father never figured out how to be a daddy to his children once he and my mom went their separate ways. […]

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Why We Settle

I have really missed blogging over the past couple of weeks, but it has been a wonderful time of deep reflection and transition for me. So, I am at the half way point to being eligible to file for my divorce.  In North Carolina, a person must be separated for one year before they can […]

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For Your Consideration

I have been receiving a lot of feedback from individuals that have read my blog posts.  As a writer it is always exciting when you get feedback because you know that your material is being read.  Of course, as human beings we all share a different set of beliefs, values, and standards.  So, just like […]

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