Take Away Their Power

I have been a self-proclaimed feminist since my college days. In fact, in undergrad I majored in Political Science and minored in Women’s Studies with the dream of getting into a Women’s Studies PhD program. My plan was to plant myself on a campus somewhere and spend the rest of my life empowering young women. […]

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Cause I’m A Woman

The twenty something Tonza (as she smiles gleefully): The forty something Tonza (as I give myself the side eye): WHY IN THE WORLD WOULD I TAKE ALL OF THAT ON? Anyone remember the saying, “be careful what you wish for”? It seems to be playing like a broken record in my head as I think […]

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I am a Feminist (but, I like a man who is chivalrous)

In this quest for equality as women have we led men to believe that we no longer desire a chivalrous man at our side? If so, men please accept my apology for the role that I have played in the confusion.  Sure, I want equal pay and equal access to opportunities. I want to be […]

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To Lipstick, or, Not

They are all tucked away in my makeup bag.  I had so much fun with them over the past several months.  In fact, the compliments I received made me more obsessed with finding different shades every time I entered a store.  My bright red lips had become a bold statement about my new found freedom. […]

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Strong Women Suffer

I am attracted to strong men.  Yes, I said it.  Strong men. I love them.  So, what is my definition of a strong man?  Well, here we go… A strong man is a man that has the right amount of “swag” (too much swag can be a turn off) when he is dealing with the […]

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Don’t Test My Mouth

BY TAKIYA LEWIS Why do I have to control my mouth? Do you have to control yours? Why do I have to keep my legs closed? Do you have to keep your pants up? Why do I have to conform to your ideals of a woman? Do you have to conform to my ideals of […]

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