A Love Letter to Myself

What a GREAT WAY TO START A SUNDAY MORNING! Check out “A Love Letter to Myself” by guest blogger TAKIYA LEWIS, ESQ. You have to remember who you are, what you want and what you deserve.  Sometimes what we want isn’t what God wants for us.  Walking away from it may be hard, it may […]

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Behind the Scenes of My Perfect "Bomb A$%" Life

Happy Holidays! Two days left and we will all be gathering around the tree, drinking hot cocoa in our matching Christmas pajamas, and exchanging gifts as we instruct Alexa to stream holiday music throughout our wonderfully decorated homes. Real talk…The scenario I just described is only a figment of my imagination. At least as it […]

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Hit The Reset Button

Yesterday a lady stopped me in the parking lot to let me know she had read Pieces Of Me. She went on to say that it contained a powerful word and it was going to be helpful to many! My heart just beamed❤️❤️❤️. I was so incredibly thankful that she thought enough of me to […]

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Prelude to a Kiss IV (The End)

I was doing it again. Ignoring the inner voice that was screaming something was off. Like many times in the past, I ignored that inner voice because his words made me feel so good at a time when I was so vulnerable. Still slightly off balance by the abrupt ending to my relationship with my “Keeper”, […]

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I Miss You All

Hi guys! So many positive things have been going on in my life over the past several weeks. I am not sure where I want to begin. I guess tonight I will start by sharing Season 2 Episode 1 of Sistanomics (VLOG about the life and adventures of 3 African-American Women). Recording this VLOG with my […]

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I Want a Behind the Scenes Man

Of course, I do not know all of the factors that go into a man determining whether or not he is attracted to a woman. As women we all have experienced that man staring at us like we are a piece of pork chop on a plate. Hell, the beauty and clothing industry makes “gazillion’s” […]

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Tonza D. Ruffin

I am a single mother, daughter, and attorney living in Bertie County, a small town in Eastern North Carolina. Growing up I moved back and forth between the Bronx and Bertie County,  so my personality is a little bit city and a little bit country (although I prefer the term southern). After being back in […]

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Presumption of Ignorance

Stunned at the depth of unprofessionalism, I sat there and listened as questions about my personal life were raised in the name of addressing any potential conflicts that I had with existing clients.  Looking at the court reporter summoned to this meeting, I felt my emotion leave my body as I geared up to play […]

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Connected

Approximately 18 years ago we crossed paths. Feeling unworthy I ignored the obvious. I was a young, single mother with 2 little girls, just beginning my legal career. He was a single, young professional who had the world at his fingertips. Prior heartbreak and disappointment would not allow me to consider the possibility that we […]

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Why We Settle

I have really missed blogging over the past couple of weeks, but it has been a wonderful time of deep reflection and transition for me. So, I am at the half way point to being eligible to file for my divorce.  In North Carolina, a person must be separated for one year before they can […]

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