Prelude to a Kiss IV (The End)

I was doing it again. Ignoring the inner voice that was screaming something was off. Like many times in the past, I ignored that inner voice because his words made me feel so good at a time when I was so vulnerable. Still slightly off balance by the abrupt ending to my relationship with my “Keeper”, […]

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I Miss You All

Hi guys! So many positive things have been going on in my life over the past several weeks. I am not sure where I want to begin. I guess tonight I will start by sharing Season 2 Episode 1 of Sistanomics (VLOG about the life and adventures of 3 African-American Women). Recording this VLOG with my […]

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I Want a Behind the Scenes Man

Of course, I do not know all of the factors that go into a man determining whether or not he is attracted to a woman. As women we all have experienced that man staring at us like we are a piece of pork chop on a plate. Hell, the beauty and clothing industry makes “gazillion’s” […]

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Tonza D. Ruffin

I am a single mother, daughter, and attorney living in Bertie County, a small town in Eastern North Carolina. Growing up I moved back and forth between the Bronx and Bertie County,  so my personality is a little bit city and a little bit country (although I prefer the term southern). After being back in […]

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Presumption of Ignorance

Stunned at the depth of unprofessionalism, I sat there and listened as questions about my personal life were raised in the name of addressing any potential conflicts that I had with existing clients.  Looking at the court reporter summoned to this meeting, I felt my emotion leave my body as I geared up to play […]

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Connected

Approximately 18 years ago we crossed paths. Feeling unworthy I ignored the obvious. I was a young, single mother with 2 little girls, just beginning my legal career. He was a single, young professional who had the world at his fingertips. Prior heartbreak and disappointment would not allow me to consider the possibility that we […]

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Why We Settle

I have really missed blogging over the past couple of weeks, but it has been a wonderful time of deep reflection and transition for me. So, I am at the half way point to being eligible to file for my divorce.  In North Carolina, a person must be separated for one year before they can […]

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