President of the "Bitter Bitches" Club

I recently learned that I had been bestowed the honor of serving as President of the “Bitter Bitches” Club. Ironically the person that had taken on the responsibility of looking for the perfect candidate never bothered to let me know that I was being considered for such a prestigious position. Therefore it should come as […]

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Behind the Scenes of My Perfect "Bomb A$%" Life

Happy Holidays! Two days left and we will all be gathering around the tree, drinking hot cocoa in our matching Christmas pajamas, and exchanging gifts as we instruct Alexa to stream holiday music throughout our wonderfully decorated homes. Real talk…The scenario I just described is only a figment of my imagination. At least as it […]

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CRABS IN A BARREL

Black Women don’t support one another enough. There, I said it! Often we refer to it as the “Crabs In A Barrel” mindset which essentially means we fear helping another will somehow interfere with our ability to attain greatness. I will be the first to admit in my younger years I hoarded knowledge that would […]

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HAPPY THANKSGIVING

This is my second year being away from home on Thanksgiving. Last year we celebrated in Cape May, New Jersey.  This year I decided to roll out with my mom and cousin and head to beautiful Charleston, South Carolina. As a natural wanderer, I  am enjoying this non-traditional way of celebrating the holiday. Since I […]

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Hit The Reset Button

Yesterday a lady stopped me in the parking lot to let me know she had read Pieces Of Me. She went on to say that it contained a powerful word and it was going to be helpful to many! My heart just beamed❤️❤️❤️. I was so incredibly thankful that she thought enough of me to […]

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Silenced – Was I wrong??

We were in Middle School. My friend, well…she hit puberty well before the rest of us girls. As a result, she walked around with a body that the rest of us only dreamed of possessing in the near future. With that body came an air of confidence that suggested that she was somehow superior to […]

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Tonza D. Ruffin

I am a single mother, daughter, and attorney living in Bertie County, a small town in Eastern North Carolina. Growing up I moved back and forth between the Bronx and Bertie County,  so my personality is a little bit city and a little bit country (although I prefer the term southern). After being back in […]

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