A Closer Look at Tonza D. Ruffin: SouthernMomJD

As I enter 2020 I am looking for new ways to engage in conversation and share more of my “Perfect Bomb A$! Life” (read the post before commenting on the title 🙂 ) with you all. This video is the first step in that direction. I hope you enjoy! Much Love, Tonza Advertisements

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Behind the Scenes of My Perfect "Bomb A$%" Life

Happy Holidays! Two days left and we will all be gathering around the tree, drinking hot cocoa in our matching Christmas pajamas, and exchanging gifts as we instruct Alexa to stream holiday music throughout our wonderfully decorated homes. Real talk…The scenario I just described is only a figment of my imagination. At least as it […]

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Bell Avenue (Childhood)

I grew up waiting for the day that my father would finally make my mother breathe her last breath. From the outside looking in you would have never known the horror that existed in my life as a little girl. My parents were living the American dream as a young, black couple in America. We […]

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New York! New York! – “Wecation” adventures

Wanting to spend a little mommy/daughter time with my youngest daughter, I planned a mini “wecation” for us to wonderful New York City. Having Gabby stuck in the car with me for 7 plus hours was just as exciting as everything we did while we were in New York…at least for me! I had a […]

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I Am Auggie

My youngest daughter and I have been reading the book Wonder by R.J. Palacio. Wonder is about a ten-year old boy whose nickname is Auggie. As a result of a facial deformity he was born with, Auggie struggles with going to school and making friends. This morning as we were reading, I was overcome with […]

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He Made Me Do It (why I broke up with social media)

For the past couple of months I walked away from my social media accounts. Honestly, my initial decision to walk away did not seem to be prompted by some strong desire to regroup and reflect. In fact, I felt forced to walk away. So, for a couple of weeks after I deactivated my Facebook and […]

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Alpha Omega – On Father’s Day

My parent’s divorced when I was 10. Following their divorce my brother and I lived with our mother. My mother never got over the pain inflicted upon her at my father’s hands and my father never figured out how to be a daddy to his children once he and my mom went their separate ways. […]

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He’s A Keeper

Unable to stay awake a second longer, I hobbled into my bedroom, crawled under the cover, and drifted into a world that did not include my demanding children. Prior to this weekend, I was able to closely monitor my boyfriend’s interactions with my children. No, not because my boyfriend is creepy and needs to be […]

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Celebrating My Teenager, Honoring Our Ancestors

Lately, me, and mine, have been in a celebratory mood as we watch the possibilities unfold for my teenager, Alyssa.  Alyssa, my middle child, has always been the academically focused one.  She has consistently, despite any challenges, kept her “eye on the prize” and excelled academically. In an effort to provide her with the best […]

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My Teacher

On December 21, 1990 I bought a future teacher into the world.  Of course. I had no clue at the time of what was in store for her.  And, through the years, as she was deciding which direction she should head in, I must honestly say the last thing I ever encouraged her to do […]

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