Men Just Aren’t Ready For Your Feelings

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In a lot of cases men wouldn’t ever get married if we could get away with it.  If a woman would allow that. We’d keep it simple, and you’d be a companion vs a wife. Or, someone we occasionally spent time with.

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The “F” Word

Apparently I did not get the 2019 single woman’s memo, the “F” word is never to be raised, or discussed, until you have been dating/seeing someone for a solid 6 months, year, 2 years…maybe NEVER. Up until his visceral rejection of my revelation, I thought we were kind of feeling each other despite the fact […]

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It’s Not Jordyn’s Fault

So, I have been tuned in very little to this whole Jordyn Woods/Tristan/Khloe Kardashian saga. It just wasn’t something that caught my interest until I watched this young girls’ interview on Red Table Talk. As I watched, I cried tears for this 21-year-old. Her life has been turned upside down by a split-second decision to […]

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Submissive Boss Chick

If someone asked me to describe myself in 3 words or less I would say “submissive boss chick”. I know, I know…a bit of an oxymoron huh? But wait, let me explain before you start judging and trying to snatch my super woman cape. I am willing to bet there are other women out there […]

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What Tonza Wants

I recently read an interesting article about what men in my age group are attracted to. I thought this article did a wonderful job of providing some insight into the mind of a mature man seeking companionship. It also led to some introspection on my part…What do I want? After careful consideration, while blasting Ella […]

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Full Circle Part 1- If It Don’t Fit Don’t Force It

I know I am stereotyping when I say this but I believe most women are nurturers. As such, we believe that we are powerful enough to overcome anything with a strong dose of love and understanding. Oftentimes it is that belief that leads to us staying in a relationship well past its date of expiration. […]

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Prelude to a Kiss IV (The End)

I was doing it again. Ignoring the inner voice that was screaming something was off. Like many times in the past, I ignored that inner voice because his words made me feel so good at a time when I was so vulnerable. Still slightly off balance by the abrupt ending to my relationship with my “Keeper”, […]

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The Girl Code

While sitting around talking to family and friends the other day, the “Girl Code” came up. My younger cousin was talking about how she managed to move on after an ex-boyfriend really hurt her. Following their painful breakup they were able to talk and salvage their friendship. As friends, my cousin told her ex that […]

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Welcome to “Man POWER Monday”

I don’t believe there are enough positive images of Black men out there in the universe. So, I have decided to do my part and make Mondays “Man POWER Monday” on SouthernmomJD. Each Monday SouthernmomJD will highlight at least one Black man that absolutely rocks! Without further ado, the first Black man to be featured […]

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My Children Are Dating Gurus

This morning as I was in the middle of my morning walk, I had an AHA moment! Single moms reentering the dating scene have an advantage over women without kids. Unfortunately it seems that many of us are overlooking our most valuable resource, our children. That’s right. Our children’s dating skills are being woefully underutilized […]

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