President of the "Bitter Bitches" Club

I recently learned that I had been bestowed the honor of serving as President of the “Bitter Bitches” Club. Ironically the person that had taken on the responsibility of looking for the perfect candidate never bothered to let me know that I was being considered for such a prestigious position. Therefore it should come as […]

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A Love Letter to Myself

What a GREAT WAY TO START A SUNDAY MORNING! Check out “A Love Letter to Myself” by guest blogger TAKIYA LEWIS, ESQ. You have to remember who you are, what you want and what you deserve.  Sometimes what we want isn’t what God wants for us.  Walking away from it may be hard, it may […]

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A Closer Look at Tonza D. Ruffin: SouthernMomJD

As I enter 2020 I am looking for new ways to engage in conversation and share more of my “Perfect Bomb A$! Life” (read the post before commenting on the title 🙂 ) with you all. This video is the first step in that direction. I hope you enjoy! Much Love, Tonza

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Behind the Scenes of My Perfect "Bomb A$%" Life

Happy Holidays! Two days left and we will all be gathering around the tree, drinking hot cocoa in our matching Christmas pajamas, and exchanging gifts as we instruct Alexa to stream holiday music throughout our wonderfully decorated homes. Real talk…The scenario I just described is only a figment of my imagination. At least as it […]

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BEHIND CLOSED DOORS

It’s here! My published short story, BEHIND CLOSED DOORS, is now available for purchase through the Kindle Store and it only cost $1.99. I wrote this series of short stories because I wanted to do my part to continue the conversation about domestic violence. I must say my inspiration came from a woman that I […]

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Men Just Aren’t Ready For Your Feelings

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In a lot of cases men wouldn’t ever get married if we could get away with it.  If a woman would allow that. We’d keep it simple, and you’d be a companion vs a wife. Or, someone we occasionally spent time with.

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The “F” Word

Apparently I did not get the 2019 single woman’s memo, the “F” word is never to be raised, or discussed, until you have been dating/seeing someone for a solid 6 months, year, 2 years…maybe NEVER. Up until his visceral rejection of my revelation, I thought we were kind of feeling each other despite the fact […]

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It’s Not Jordyn’s Fault

So, I have been tuned in very little to this whole Jordyn Woods/Tristan/Khloe Kardashian saga. It just wasn’t something that caught my interest until I watched this young girls’ interview on Red Table Talk. As I watched, I cried tears for this 21-year-old. Her life has been turned upside down by a split-second decision to […]

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Submissive Boss Chick

If someone asked me to describe myself in 3 words or less I would say “submissive boss chick”. I know, I know…a bit of an oxymoron huh? But wait, let me explain before you start judging and trying to snatch my super woman cape. I am willing to bet there are other women out there […]

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What Tonza Wants

I recently read an interesting article about what men in my age group are attracted to. I thought this article did a wonderful job of providing some insight into the mind of a mature man seeking companionship. It also led to some introspection on my part…What do I want? After careful consideration, while blasting Ella […]

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