Tonza D. Ruffin

My girls

I am a single mother, daughter, and attorney living in Bertie County, a small town in Eastern North Carolina. Growing up I moved back and forth between the Bronx and Bertie County,  so my personality is a little bit city and a little bit country (although I prefer the term southern).

After being back in Bertie County for more than 15 years, I have finally embraced all things southern!  Just thinking about that makes me laugh because when I left Bertie, as a young adult, I vowed to never return.   Now, here I am, sitting in my southern home, feeling extremely thankful.

My law school graduation photo
Me with Reverend William Barber II 17 years after I graduated from law school

My  mother, who absolutely would rather be nowhere else besides New York City, convinced me to return.   She was adamant that the area needed more attorney’s who were dedicated to the people in  the community.

My Mother, Me, and My Grandmother

As a single mother I also could not ignore the fact that my “village” was in Bertie County and I needed them if I was going to have any shot at raising halfway sane little girls while trying to develop my career as a litigator.  So, after graduating from Georgia State University College of Law I threw everything I owned, including my two little girls, in a U-haul,  and moved back “down south”, as my northern cousins said.


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Over the past sixteen years I have evolved into the complicated human being that I am today.  Fortunately, I am pretty excited about who I am!  One more little girl has been added to my pack, and, we are all on a constant journey of love, peace, understanding, and joy as we navigate through this great blessing called “life”.  This blog is my opportunity to share that journey with you!  I hope you enjoy!

Much love,



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5 thoughts on “Tonza D. Ruffin

  1. Thank you for providing the opportunity for me to look through the window of your life. I really enjoy reading your blogs they are refreshing and inspiring. I remember the little girl with the pigtails on Ghent St.

  2. You certainly have accomplished a lot in your life time so far. Meaning you still have so much more you can do. As I’ve said before, you had and have a great roll model, being your Mom. Having said that, you certainly are a wonderful roll model for your children. Very proud to know you and call you a friend.

    1. I am looking forward to the journey ahead. I wholeheartedly agree that there is still so much more I can do and I am excited about the possibilities!

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